Anonymous asked: Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months and he is the sweetest guy ever,im 17 and hes 18. Well im a virgin and he isnt and ive been thinking about sex alot lately and I feel like he is the one but I dont know if I should do it or not. Do you think its too early in the relationship for sex?
Honestly, if I were you, I would wait it out. If you have any doubts at all, then you’re probably not ready. Two months is not a very long time to get to know someone and though you may think you love each other or that he’s the one, it’s best to make sure it’s definitely what you want and who you want to do it with. You want to look back on your first time and remember it as being something incredibly special and huge so you don’t just want to do it whenever with whoever. Some people don’t think losing your virginity is a big deal, but I think it’s a pretty huge deal. I was in the exact same position as you but my boyfriend is 2 years older than me and waiting was the best decision I made in the relationship. If your boyfriend loves you, he will wait until you are 100% ready. My boyfriend and I waited a year and he never once pushed it on me or anything - now I’m not saying you have to wait a year but that was just when I was ready. He always says how glad he is that we waited as well. I mean, you don’t want to give him everything straight away, otherwise what’s there to look forward to? Obviously this is just my opinion and whenever you feel ready, at 17 I’m sure you’re mature enough to make your own decisions. Just honestly, please make sure you start taking birth control or that he has condoms because you don’t want any little accidents!
Good luck dearest.
Ps. Talking to other people I trusted about it (who had done it), and asking for anonymous advice on Tumblr when I felt like I was ready really helped me make not only an informed decision but the right one :)