Anonymous asked: Hello, I want to say that what you do is great and very sweet because you go out of your way to help people. You should be very proud.I've known my guy best friend for 2 years now and he and I have had an amazing friendship. As time went on we started to like each other. He tells me that I would be a great gf for him but believes I can do better than him. I dont want to push him in a relationship with me but I also don't want to sit around and wait for him to change his mind. Any advice, please?
Aw thank-you for being so kind :)
Well do you think you can do better than him? Or do you like him? If you don’t think he’s right about you being able to do better then start a conversation with him and steer it in the direction of relationships. Maybe tell him a story about one of your friends relationship and then try to link it to you and him. Once you’ve done that you could probably say something along the lines of “I think you’d be an amazing boyfriend, especially to me. It just all depends on whether that’s something you’d want or not..” and kind of leave it as open ended so he has a few different ways to answer. If he doesn’t try to initiate anything with you after you’ve made it clear then maybe you need to see him as just a friend if that’s all he wants to be and wait til someone else comes along who actually wants that kind of relationship with you.
ldawwwg asked: Hello, First off I really love your Blog and follow it since probably 6 months. So, but now I really need some advice. I am from Germany and went last year for one year to America. I met there the absolute best boy in the world and we've been dating now since probably 11 months. But unfortunately I had to go back to Germany, and here I am now. My boyfriend came to Germany and visit me for 3 weeks, it was amazing. But now he is back in the States and I am here in Germany.
(continued..) We will try to have a long distance relationship but it is not easy. He is starting his College in one week and I am concerned to not know whats going on there. But anyway, My real problem is that I am thinking to go back to America for studying. But I am not sure if I should do it. I am afraid but I really want to be with him. I would be happy with any advice.
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Thank-you, glad you like it. :)
Well first of all, it’s great that you’re both willing to try out the long distance option cause it’s definitely not easy. As for thinking about going to America… you have to think about yourself /your future for this one. Is going to America to study/go to college, really the best decision for you? or for your future? Or would you be better off staying in Germany? It’s completely up to you what you want to do, but it’s a really huge decision so make sure you think about it. Have some talks with your boyfriend about it as well. Does he want you to come? What does he think you should do? Why should you do it that way etc.. Also speak to your family, or maybe someone else who has gone to study in America that you know from Germany. Just think about how much it would suck if you went all the way to America just because of your boyfriend and then it doesn’t end up working out. I mean if there are going to be better opportunities for you in America then that’s great, but don’t only go to America because your boyfriend is there. I know that it’s hard to factor in other things when you really just want to be with your boyfriend but you need to think long-term with something as big as this.
Best of luck and I hope this helped you :) xxx
Anonymous asked: Hi, Idk if you give advice to guys:/ but, There's this girl I REALLY like, everything about her is just amazing,(: she said she'd love to go out with me, but she can't because there's another guy she likes too, and she hasn't said yes to him either, Idk what I should do.. should I convince her to like me more by being myself, or let her be with him and hope it doesn't last very long... I just want her to be happy, and to follow her heart, but idk, I'm just scared to lose her in my life forever):
Of course I give advice to guys! I’ll give advice to anyone :)
Hmm that sucks, doesn’t it? Well if you like her as much as you say you do then you should fight for her. Don’t give up unless you think she really isn’t interested and would go for the other guy. Maybe you should ask to meet up as friends, but plan a really cute date like a picnic in the park or go to the Zoo together or something like that. Definitely don’t go too much out of your way doing all this cute stuff if you aren’t going to do it when you’re in a relationship with her. Only do it if you’re going to continue doing it. And make sure you be yourself, the person you’re going to be if she goes out with you. I’m glad that she’s been honest with you and told you that there’s another guy in her life, even if it sucks, I’m sure you’d prefer that she’s honest with you. If you just want her to be happy and follow her heart (which is extremely sweet and cute, by the way) then you should tell her that when you meet up with her. Just be honest about how you’re feeling and if she sees that you’re really genuine hopefully she will want to be with you.
Good luck xxxxx
Anonymous asked: I really wanna give my boyfriend an amazing morning text.. I just don't know what to say? Help please? :)
Aw, well how about you just start it off by saying “good morning my amazing gorgeous boyfriend. Just wanted to say that I hope you have a really good day and I can’t wait until I see you next. I love you xoxox” If you’re looking for something a bit longer than that then you could try telling him exactly what you love about him, the things he does for you and how much you love him.
Hope this helps :)
Anonymous asked: Hi, I've been with my boyfriend nearly a month and he's amazing and 100% trustworthy and has never showed any signs that I can't trust him. But I've been in past relationships where I've been cheated on and lied to for years. It's so hard to trust him and it's pushing him away because i'm so insecure and terrified of getting hurt again I keep puttin my guard up. What can I do before I push him away? Thanks
I know this is going to be hard but you need to trust him. If he keeps on showing you that he wont hurt you, is amazing and cares about you then you need to be able to let your walls down. It’s completely unfair on your boyfriend to not trust him. He is not any other boy, he is not a boy that’s cheated on or lied to you in the past. He is himself and he’s not like your past because if he was, you wouldn’t have picked him. Maybe he’s afraid of the same thing, but he’s still letting you in. If you’re always worried about being hurt again, you’ll never love fully. You have to be able to let it go - being hurt is, unfortunately, a part of life but you cant go around thinking every single boy is the same. Know what I mean?
Good luck love.
Ps. Don’t expect it to happen over night - it’ll take some time x
Anonymous asked: So me and my boyfriend of just over a year have a long distance relationship. At first it started off amazing and i love him to pieces but lately i keep saying the dumbest things and we end up falling out. He keeps saying i need to make more of an effort but over the phone what else can i do other than send him pictures and texts? HELP.
If he wants you to make more of an effort, why don’t you try sending him a package full of little goodies? Make him a CD of your favourite songs. Or maybe you could both say that at the time of day when you miss each other the most, you’ll take a picture of where you are and send it to each other. It could be while you’re laying in bed of an empty pillow next to you, or when you’re on the train and there’s an empty seat, or when you’re watching TV and wish he was watching it with you - whatever it is. Maybe he wants you to show him that you miss him / need him etc. Another thing you could do is ask him what exactly he means and what he wants you to do more of. If you only ask me and not him what he means, I can’t give you the full story because I don’t know him.
Good luck anyways dear x
Anonymous asked: part 1/2 .. hey sweet, i submitted the ask that you didn't get the first part to.. its okay don't worry i should have made it more clearer. But anyway here is my ask again.. i have been talking to this amazing guy for a while now. he makes me so happy its unreal. he is currently doing his navy training atm which makes it hard to see each other but everytime we talk i cant help but smile, i think about him all the time and i always find myself getting that funny feeling in my stomach every time
part 2/2 ..He calls at random times just to hear my voice! Hes all i can think about every day and night, i have never felt the way i do for about him for someone else. We talk every day and we never run out of things to say. About 6 weeks ago he told me the didn’t want to rush into things but he thinks he might love me. Hes always telling me how amazing he thinks i am and how stunning and beautiful i am. I want to tell him i love him because i really do but i don’t know if its too soon …?
Hey love, thanks for reposting. My first answer still applies though. Definitely tell him that you love him. When you feel it, and I mean really, truly, heart-achingly feel it, tell him so. He sounds like a really sweet guy and I hope that him doing his navy training doesn’t take too much of a toll on how you interact with each other.
If it’s been one week, it’s probably too soon, but hey, you know your heart better than anyone else. Trust your gut feelings :)
