Anonymous asked: Hi, so I've been with my boyfriend for one and a half months. Our relationship started off with us communicating a lot, but recently we rarely talk anymore. More and more whenever I call him, I find that he doesn't answer. When I text him, he doesn't reply. Just last night I asked if he was awake and he told me he was at a party and apologized about not replying previously for he was partying again. I was hurt and angry, I haven't talked to him since then. I'm afraid to bring it up because
(continued..) he tends to manipulate any argument we have making me seem immature. I appreciate any advice or suggestions you have. Thank you for your time and patience.
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Well if you’re feeling this way then you need to tell him exactly how you feel. It isn’t going to magically get better if you sit there and say nothing.. it’s going to get worse. I think that you need to see him in person and you need to tell him how you’re feeling. Tell him that you’re unhappy with the way you’re being treated and if he wants to be in this relationship he needs to put in 100% and not 50%.. he has to want to be in the relationship. If he tries to turn the argument against you just say “these are my feelings. you need to respect and accept the way I feel and you should be trying your best to stop me from feeling this way.”
If talking to him doesn’t change anything then I think you know where you stand. Good luck.
Anonymous asked: Hi! I meet a guy in my college. He was nice, sweet and gentleman. We used to talk every night online. and one day, I realized that every night while he was talking to me. He was talking to another girl ( my friend ). and she likes him. I like him too! and the girl asked him about his feeling towards me. He answered not sure. But i can feel that he likes me. I was really angry about it. So, I din not talk to him for few months. I think I still like him, what should I do? :(
Well, you can’t really be mad at him because it’s not like you and him were dating, or that you spoke about a relationship with him so technically he can speak to whoever he wants. It’s pretty sucky of him if he knew that you liked him which he probably did, or maybe he just thought you were friends. If you like him then you should tell him (which you should’ve done ages ago) and see what his response is. If he doesn’t like you in that way then you know for next time you should be more honest about your feelings in the future :)
Good luck xx
Anonymous asked: My boyfriends kinda making me feel shit, its like he doesn't really care.. he was getting annoyed by my cutting, isn't he suppost to be supportive and help me through it? not tell his friends its annoying him?.. Also hes added my cousin and she said he was cute and giving her cute advice, I felt gutted.. I feel like I mean jack shit to him and Im sick of it. He knows when I get angry about it, but then he just assumes im gonna dump him.. help? :(
This is a bit confusing, love but I’ll try to help you. If you have problems with depression and cutting, don’t you think it would be best to get help from a professional about it? Your boyfriend probably doesn’t know how to deal with it and in turn gets frustrated about it because he can’t help you and takes it out on you. I think for yours, and your relationship’s sake, you should definitely seek help. He is supposed to be supportive and help you, yes, but he can’t if he doesn’t know how. Why don’t you go and see someone together so he can learn how to help you? About him adding your cousin, it’s possible he’s just being friendly and because you’re upset about other things, it’s making you see it in a bad way. If you want to say something to your cousin about calling him cute, then you can do that but just be calm about it. Just say I would prefer it if you didn’t call my boyfriend cute… it makes me uncomfortable” or whatever it is you want to say. Maybe being in a relationship is not the best thing for you right now.. it seems like it’s just making it harder to sort out your own issues. You say he makes you feel like you mean nothing to him and you’re sick of it, so maybe you need to talk a break from each other.
I really hope I haven’t offended you but I just want you to worry about what’s best for yourself right now. That should be your top priority. Best of luck with everything and if you need anything else you know where to find me xx
