Anonymous asked: Hey there, i really love your blog ! but i actually came to ask you for advice..I've been in a relationship with a guy for 9months & i really love(d) him but he cheated on me more than once. anyways, we broke up 7months ago, we didn't broke up with a fight or something he just left me without a reason. In the past 7months we still talked to eachother sometimes, i don't know what he wants one day he's like 'i miss you babe' &other days he's like 'i dont want you' please help, i still love him :(
Why do you love someone who thinks you’re worthless?
Just think about that. I mean, if he REALLY loved you, would he have cheated on you? I don’t think so. All he means when he says “I miss you” is that “I’m bored and no girls are giving me attention so I’ll run to my ex, she will give me attention!!” Seriously, that’s all it means. You might think you love him but perhaps that’s just because you don’t know any better.. especially if he was your first serious relationship. For goodness sake, HE CHEATED ON YOU!!! Why on earth would you want to go back to that life? Why would you want to put yourself through that AGAIN?
Ditch the loser, block him, delete him, delete his number - do whatever you have to do to keep him out of your life because seriously he is not even worth one minute of your time. Do it for your own self worth if for nothing else.
Anonymous asked: Hey me and my guy bestfriend have been mates 4 years now and we are so close and our friendship is the best. The other week he told me he was in love with me. I was like OMG. I never expected it but all my mates knew he was and thought i knew it too. Anyways i told him didnt feel the same coz id never seen him as someone id date coz hes just always been my best friend n there for me but now we havent talked much since he told me and im worried im losing him as my best friend. what should i do?
I hate to be the one to break it to you but in girl/guy best friendships, one person is bound to fall for the other at some point. You may think it’s not going to happen to you, but it almost always does. I think that if you always made it clear to your best friend that you didn’t want to date him and you just wanted to be friends then there’s not really anything you can do; he can’t help his feelings.
I think that if you want to try and keep things as normal as possible then you should have a face-to-face chat with him about your friendship. Tell him that you love being his friend and love having him in your life but you really don’t see him in that way. Tell him why you don’t have feelings for him like that or just explain why you don’t think it will work out. Tell him that if he needs some space or time away from speaking to you then you’re happy to give it to him but that you definitely don’t want to lose him and if he says he needs space, don’t contact him for about a month or so and see if he tries to contact you. If he doesn’t and you really cant handle it after a month, text him or something and just say something simple and friendly but not too friendly like “hey, just thought I would see how you are, haven’t heard from you in a while…” or whatever you think suits better. I think that if you ignore it all and think it will just go back to normal, you’re going to lose the friendship completely. Just talk to each other.
Good luck :(
Anonymous asked: Hello, I want to say that what you do is great and very sweet because you go out of your way to help people. You should be very proud.I've known my guy best friend for 2 years now and he and I have had an amazing friendship. As time went on we started to like each other. He tells me that I would be a great gf for him but believes I can do better than him. I dont want to push him in a relationship with me but I also don't want to sit around and wait for him to change his mind. Any advice, please?
Aw thank-you for being so kind :)
Well do you think you can do better than him? Or do you like him? If you don’t think he’s right about you being able to do better then start a conversation with him and steer it in the direction of relationships. Maybe tell him a story about one of your friends relationship and then try to link it to you and him. Once you’ve done that you could probably say something along the lines of “I think you’d be an amazing boyfriend, especially to me. It just all depends on whether that’s something you’d want or not..” and kind of leave it as open ended so he has a few different ways to answer. If he doesn’t try to initiate anything with you after you’ve made it clear then maybe you need to see him as just a friend if that’s all he wants to be and wait til someone else comes along who actually wants that kind of relationship with you.
Anonymous asked: Okay, so im 15 and I met this guy over my xbox a week ago. He is 19 and super nice and i've met him in person and ai really like him. I talked to my mom and she told me to stop talking to him because of my age. But I know some people say "age is just a number" amd "jail is just a room" type thing . But I know he cares about me and watches out for me. Help! What should I do?
Well obviously as a mother she’s not going to impressed about a 4 year age difference because “boys only want one thing” da da da… she’s just trying to look out for you. Also, it’s fine that you’re speaking to this guy, but it’s only been a week. You cant know for sure what his intentions are at all. I probably sound like a mother, but I know what people can be like… and I’m not saying you are, but sometimes 15 year olds can be naive… heck even 25 year olds can be naive but still just be careful. Like I said it’s perfectly fine for you to speak to him and be friends but make sure you know who you’re talking to and that he isn’t just speaking to you because he wants something from you. Maybe he sees you as a younger sister and is looking out for you and cares about you in that way.. I don’t know. You can be the judge of his character yourself, but if your mum wont let you see him, tell her you see him with a group of people and you always bring a friend along and you’re just friends with him. She should ease up if she knows that you just want to be friends with him. Also, if you can get him and a bunch of friends to come over so your mum could meet him, that would probably help.
Best of luck xx
Anonymous asked: I need your help, Im a guy and my gf broke up with me a couple of months ago for no reason she just left me , the problem is that i cant get over her , im finding it very hard , and im still inove with her but dont know what to do , please help me??
Maybe you can’t get over her cause you don’t have closure? I mean because you said she broke up with you for no reason. If that’s the case then you probably need to try speaking to her and asking her if it was anything you did in particular and tell her that you just need to know if it was because of you, or just because of her feelings so you can move on. As well as doing that, you just need time. As unfortunate as that is, time is the best thing for healing. Well time, and ice cream. And spending as much time with your friends as possible. Or throwing yourself into weekly hobbies or sports. Once someone told me that the amount of time you’ve known someone, is usually about the amount of time it takes to get over them. So if you were with her for a year, it will take a year to get over the break up completely. I mean it’s not always the case but I guess it’s something to go by.
I hope you find someone who deserves you :) Best of luck x
Anonymous asked: i really like this boy but we have only talked for a week and idk if i should tell him i like him or if its too soon?
It’s fine that you like him but just to make sure I think you should continue to speak to him and maybe meet up in a few weeks and then see how that goes before you tell him. A week is not a very long time to get to know someone well enough.
Good luck x
Anonymous asked: I'm 15 years old and the rule in my house is "no boyfriends". There's this boy that I like, and he likes me back. He's a good person too. What do you think I should do?
Well, I wouldn’t say to go against your parents rule, but maybe if you ask to invite a few friends over, and invite the boy and a few other people so that he can meet your parents or your parents can just see him and then a little while after that ask if he can come over to watch a movie. If you slowly introduce him into your life and let your parents get to know him then maybe they’ll ease up on the no boyfriend rule. I’m not sure if the rule is “no boyfriends at all ever ever ever” (haha) or if it’s just because of your age but just take it slow. It wont happen overnight, so don’t expect it to but it can happen. It happened to me.
Ps. If you have a good relationship with your parents where you can talk about what boys you like or whatever then maybe that’s a good way to get into the conversation about having a boyfriend too…
Anonymous asked: I met this guy a year ago-i visited his sister and stayed at their house.I thought he was cute and interesting and the conversations I had with him were him asking me what kind of guy i like,what I want to study in college,etc.We added each other on FB but didn't exchange numbers.He was so sweet. A year later,I literally think about him everyday.We don't live near each other and we haven't spoken since then.Would it be weird to FB him now after all this time?I just don't want to wonder what if?
It might be a little out of the blue but not too weird! Do some stalking and make sure he doesn’t have a girlfriend first because that wouldn’t be fair! After that’s all clear you can either message him, or wait until you see him online on chat and just be like “hey! remember me? long time huh! just came across your profile randomly and thought I’d say hello! What have you been up to? :)” and that should get the conversation flowing and just see how you go from there :)
Good luck :)
Anonymous asked: Hi, I'm just starting to talk to this boy and I am extremely shy. I don't know what topics to talk about and just make it a flowing conversation and I don't want him to get bored of me :( What are some things I could talk about?
Hi love, you wont always be shy! Once you start to become more comfortable with him the conversation will flow on it’s own. As for now, you could ask him about his family life, if he has any siblings, what he wants to do when he finishes school, ask about his past relationships, or what he likes to do in his spare time. Just basically, ask what you want to know about him. The topics are honestly endless. Favourite songs/music genre, what concerts he’s been to, favourite movies, favourite tv shows etc etc. :)
Anonymous asked: ok so ive been with this guy for way over a year now and im happily in love with him. but there is a problem. his dad is dating my mom. we got alot of shit for it when we first started dating and we just kind of ignored it. but im afriad that if our parents get to serious then we wont be able to get married or have kids or any of the plans that we have. im so sorry if this is weird. help please?
Okay well, I’m just gonna be honest here and say I’ve never heard of something like this so I don’t really know what…or how to help you but please don’t be sorry for pointless things! You can’t help who you fall in love with :)
Anyways, as for your problem, I don’t think that your parents getting serious should affect you and your boyfriend’s relationship. I mean, if they get married, technically you will be STEP brother and sister, but I wouldn’t really say there’s something wrong with that since you’re not blood related or anything weird like that. And also you were together before your parents decided to get married (if they do) so it’s not like you started dating when you were already brother and sister……. I don’t know I guess it’d probably be weird to some people but I don’t see anything wrong with it.. Just take each day as it comes and see how it goes. I think it’s probably worth talking to both of your parents about your concerns as well if you can and just see how they feel about it.
Good luck, lovely :) xx
Anonymous asked: Hi! I meet a guy in my college. He was nice, sweet and gentleman. We used to talk every night online. and one day, I realized that every night while he was talking to me. He was talking to another girl ( my friend ). and she likes him. I like him too! and the girl asked him about his feeling towards me. He answered not sure. But i can feel that he likes me. I was really angry about it. So, I din not talk to him for few months. I think I still like him, what should I do? :(
Well, you can’t really be mad at him because it’s not like you and him were dating, or that you spoke about a relationship with him so technically he can speak to whoever he wants. It’s pretty sucky of him if he knew that you liked him which he probably did, or maybe he just thought you were friends. If you like him then you should tell him (which you should’ve done ages ago) and see what his response is. If he doesn’t like you in that way then you know for next time you should be more honest about your feelings in the future :)
Good luck xx
Anonymous asked: how do you know if a guy is using you as a go girl?
This may be dumb of me, but I don’t know what a go girl is….
A way to tell if someone is using you though would be if they always say no when you ask to hang out, but then randomly ask to see you. Or if they say “I love you” and things like that as soon as they meet you/shortly after. If they’ve known you for a long time or you’ve been meeting up for a while (and kissing or making out, etc) and aren’t interested in making it official. Hmm can’t really think of anything else at the moment..
Anonymous asked: i need your help.. i like this guy and he likes me. i really want to go out with him and i asked him do you think we will ever go out? and he said "dont know" he calls me babe and says he loves me. i dont want to ask him out because i feel its a guys job to do it. what should i do?
Well first of all, girls need to get out of the mindset that it’s a boys job to do the asking out. That is ridiculous! If you don’t take the initiative with guys sometimes, you’re never gonna get anywhere with them. Half of the time they’re just as scared as you are.
Anyway, if you want to go out with him then ask him when he’s free to catch up. And then after you meet up or while you’re together you could say “I’m having a really good time, we should do this more often :)” and just see what his reaction is. If it’s a good reaction then maybe after you’ve seen each other a few more times you could bring up being in a relationship again. Just take it as it comes. And don’t leave everything up to him!
Good luck xx
Anonymous asked: Ok so theres this guy and i like him and he likes me. we have went out a couple of times, but each time hes broken up with me. i reaaaalyyyyyyyyy want to go out with him what should i do?
If he’s broken up with you every time you’ve gone out, don’t you think that’s telling you something? Obviously he either a) cant decide what he wants or b) only goes out with you when he gets bored / is feeling lonely. It doesn’t really seem like he likes you that much if he keeps breaking up with you.
If I were you, I’d stay away and wait for someone who actually wants to be with you, not just because you’re ‘a girl’. Good luck.
Anonymous asked: Okay. so theres this boy that im madly in love with,and have been for ages. ive been out with him once, but 'I' messed it up. i've told him that i want to try again and that i love him etc but he seems to just ignore me. does this mean he's lost interest in me? what should i do?
He probably just got the wrong message from you and thinks that you don’t want to be with him in that way cause you “messed it up”. I’m not sure what you did but there’s no reason you shouldn’t try again if you like him as much as you say you do. If you can, try to go to his house and see him, or call him on a private number (if he doesn’t answer your other calls) so that he doesn’t ignore you. When you get a hold of him explain that you’re sorry for whatever you did and that you would like to try at your friendship/relationship whatever again. Tell him that you’d really like to see him again and organise a time to meet up. If he makes an excuse to say he cant come and doesn’t suggest another time to see you then you should start assuming he has lost interest. Good luck xx