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Ok, so there is this guy i met named Ruben. He is the most beautiful man i have ever seen. Yet he is a tad bit older then me, he is in 9th grade while im in 8th. We met at a middle school band night at his school. Middle school got to play on the football field with high school. He had a crush on me… And his girlfriend. He likes to fool me. He has a girlfriend, but he says I love you to me and kisses me. Invites me to church and his house. I dont get it. I found a guy that got me over the one guy i couldnt. A guy that I dated for 2 years. Now i dont know. Its just like he loves me to… But he loves his girlfriend to. I dont know what to say. I cant give up or else im going to be in another depression. My last one was for 9 months… Until i met him. What an i say for him to understand. Please help!

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Alright let me just tell you something straight off that you most definitely need to consider. If he has a girlfriend right now and he is CHEATING on her with you, what seriously makes you think he wont do it to you IF he breaks up with his girlfriend? You really, really need to think about that. Long and hard. What you are doing and what he is doing is wrong. I don’t think that you would appreciate it if your boyfriend was cheating on you, would you?

There are two things you need to do. One, you need to break off all contact with him and two, you need to tell his girlfriend. She might hate you but she will appreciate it later on. You cannot let this continue. If you think you’re going to fall back into depression - go and speak to a professional. I’m dead serious. You cannot rely on another person for your own happiness. You have to find it within yourself and you have to be able to love yourself. Relying on someone else to make you happy and make you feel worth something is only going to cause you bigger problems in the future and your future relationships. Not to mention if his girlfriend finds out or catches you, what do you think is going to happen? Imagine how much worse it will be.

If he’s willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you, he will cheat on you. Make the right decision. Good luck.

Anonymous asked: My boyfriends kinda making me feel shit, its like he doesn't really care.. he was getting annoyed by my cutting, isn't he suppost to be supportive and help me through it? not tell his friends its annoying him?.. Also hes added my cousin and she said he was cute and giving her cute advice, I felt gutted.. I feel like I mean jack shit to him and Im sick of it. He knows when I get angry about it, but then he just assumes im gonna dump him.. help? :(

This is a bit confusing, love but I’ll try to help you. If you have problems with depression and cutting, don’t you think it would be best to get help from a professional about it? Your boyfriend probably doesn’t know how to deal with it and in turn gets frustrated about it because he can’t help you and takes it out on you. I think for yours, and your relationship’s sake, you should definitely seek help. He is supposed to be supportive and help you, yes, but he can’t if he doesn’t know how. Why don’t you go and see someone together so he can learn how to help you? About him adding your cousin, it’s possible he’s just being friendly and because you’re upset about other things, it’s making you see it in a bad way. If you want to say something to your cousin about calling him cute, then you can do that but just be calm about it. Just say I would prefer it if you didn’t call my boyfriend cute… it makes me uncomfortable” or whatever it is you want to say. Maybe being in a relationship is not the best thing for you right now.. it seems like it’s just making it harder to sort out your own issues. You say he makes you feel like you mean nothing to him and you’re sick of it, so maybe you need to talk a break from each other.

I really hope I haven’t offended you but I just want you to worry about what’s best for yourself right now. That should be your top priority. Best of luck with everything and if you need anything else you know where to find me xx