Ok, so there is this guy i met named Ruben. He is the most beautiful man i have ever seen. Yet he is a tad bit older then me, he is in 9th grade while im in 8th. We met at a middle school band night at his school. Middle school got to play on the football field with high school. He had a crush on me… And his girlfriend. He likes to fool me. He has a girlfriend, but he says I love you to me and kisses me. Invites me to church and his house. I dont get it. I found a guy that got me over the one guy i couldnt. A guy that I dated for 2 years. Now i dont know. Its just like he loves me to… But he loves his girlfriend to. I dont know what to say. I cant give up or else im going to be in another depression. My last one was for 9 months… Until i met him. What an i say for him to understand. Please help!
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Alright let me just tell you something straight off that you most definitely need to consider. If he has a girlfriend right now and he is CHEATING on her with you, what seriously makes you think he wont do it to you IF he breaks up with his girlfriend? You really, really need to think about that. Long and hard. What you are doing and what he is doing is wrong. I don’t think that you would appreciate it if your boyfriend was cheating on you, would you?
There are two things you need to do. One, you need to break off all contact with him and two, you need to tell his girlfriend. She might hate you but she will appreciate it later on. You cannot let this continue. If you think you’re going to fall back into depression - go and speak to a professional. I’m dead serious. You cannot rely on another person for your own happiness. You have to find it within yourself and you have to be able to love yourself. Relying on someone else to make you happy and make you feel worth something is only going to cause you bigger problems in the future and your future relationships. Not to mention if his girlfriend finds out or catches you, what do you think is going to happen? Imagine how much worse it will be.
If he’s willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you, he will cheat on you. Make the right decision. Good luck.