Anonymous asked: P1- hey I really need advice on my realationship and u r very wise. Me n my ex bf broke up abt two days ago after 7 months of dating. I love him so much but o broke up wit him because he told me he didn't know where the relationship was going and that he was unsure of his feelings. His family told him that by six months he should know if he would like to marry me or not.. which I think its true. I just don't know what to do anymore. I miss him n he is my bestfriend. When we broke up he only said
(continued) “okay” … I feel like maybe he doesn’t want me in his life. We havent talked and of I hadn’t texted him today maybe we wouldn’t have talked again. I just want him in my life. He is 26 and I am 21. All his relationships have failed because he is unsure of his feelings. Wat should I do?
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I don’t know if I agree with the whole “6 month marriage rule” but after seven months you should definitely know whether you want to spend more time with that person or not. I think that you were right to break up with him. You shouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t know whether they want to be with you. I mean if someone really loves you and wants to be with you, they make sure you cant get away, and make sure that you know how much they love you. I think it’s okay to want him in your life, you can be friends if you think you can handle that, but as for being with him, I don’t think it’ll work out. I mean if at 26 years old you still don’t know how to interpret your own feelings then he’s obviously not very mature, or you’re not the one for him. The fact that you broke up with him and he didn’t even try to fight it should be proof enough. If you REALLY want to be with him and you really think you can make it work then try meeting up in person and talking to him. Ask him questions that make him think like “why don’t you know?” “what’s holding you back?” etc.
Hope this helps and good luck x
Anonymous asked: Hey me and my guy bestfriend have been mates 4 years now and we are so close and our friendship is the best. The other week he told me he was in love with me. I was like OMG. I never expected it but all my mates knew he was and thought i knew it too. Anyways i told him didnt feel the same coz id never seen him as someone id date coz hes just always been my best friend n there for me but now we havent talked much since he told me and im worried im losing him as my best friend. what should i do?
I hate to be the one to break it to you but in girl/guy best friendships, one person is bound to fall for the other at some point. You may think it’s not going to happen to you, but it almost always does. I think that if you always made it clear to your best friend that you didn’t want to date him and you just wanted to be friends then there’s not really anything you can do; he can’t help his feelings.
I think that if you want to try and keep things as normal as possible then you should have a face-to-face chat with him about your friendship. Tell him that you love being his friend and love having him in your life but you really don’t see him in that way. Tell him why you don’t have feelings for him like that or just explain why you don’t think it will work out. Tell him that if he needs some space or time away from speaking to you then you’re happy to give it to him but that you definitely don’t want to lose him and if he says he needs space, don’t contact him for about a month or so and see if he tries to contact you. If he doesn’t and you really cant handle it after a month, text him or something and just say something simple and friendly but not too friendly like “hey, just thought I would see how you are, haven’t heard from you in a while…” or whatever you think suits better. I think that if you ignore it all and think it will just go back to normal, you’re going to lose the friendship completely. Just talk to each other.
Good luck :(
Anonymous asked: ILY By the way!!! okk im going crazy and i need your truthful advice. okk so i have been with this girl for four months now and i love her. the past few weeks she has been texting her ex girlfriend alot and i think she still has feeling for her because their relationship lasted four years. she has been distance lately and alot much moody. i have there convo over text and my gf texts to nice to her ex gf. and my gf is going to her exs graduationim i just being paranoid or or should i be worried??
I wouldn’t say you’re being paranoid, they’re completely normal feelings to have when exes are involved. I really think you should tell your girlfriend how you feel about her speaking to her ex girlfriend. Maybe she doesn’t know you feel this way. If your girlfriend hasn’t given you a reason not to trust her, then no you shouldn’t be worried but you should be aware of the situation and how much they speak to each other or what they speak about. Four years is a long time to be in a relationship with someone and you don’t get over it easily and there’s no doubt that she still loves her ex, because she always will but that doesn’t mean she’s “in love” in such a way that she wants to be with her. Does that make sense?
Definitely speak to your girlfriend and explain your feelings. Tell her you trust her but you’re just uncomfortable with her speaking to her ex girlfriend and ask her to put herself in your shoes and see how she would feel.
Good luck xx
Anonymous asked: Hi! I meet a guy in my college. He was nice, sweet and gentleman. We used to talk every night online. and one day, I realized that every night while he was talking to me. He was talking to another girl ( my friend ). and she likes him. I like him too! and the girl asked him about his feeling towards me. He answered not sure. But i can feel that he likes me. I was really angry about it. So, I din not talk to him for few months. I think I still like him, what should I do? :(
Well, you can’t really be mad at him because it’s not like you and him were dating, or that you spoke about a relationship with him so technically he can speak to whoever he wants. It’s pretty sucky of him if he knew that you liked him which he probably did, or maybe he just thought you were friends. If you like him then you should tell him (which you should’ve done ages ago) and see what his response is. If he doesn’t like you in that way then you know for next time you should be more honest about your feelings in the future :)
Good luck xx
Anonymous asked: hey my names beck and i need some advise i have been sorta cing this guy for about 6 months and by sorta cing i mean friends with benifits but now i have good feelings for him and i want to b more than fwb but the only problem is im 17 and he is 23 i know what we r doing is wrong but anyway i dont know whether i should tell him how i feel or not cozz i dont want to make things awkward between us. what do u think i should do???????
Hi Beck :)
Why is what you’re doing wrong? Because he’s 6 years older than you? I have a friend whose boyfriend is 5 years older than her and they’re perfectly happy. If you have feelings for him then you should just bring it up by either saying “I like you” or by saying something like “so do you like anyone at the moment?” to introduce the topic more subtly. Friends with benefits isn’t something that can last forever without one person falling for the other at some point so he should really be expecting it. If you tell him that you like him, tell him that you understand if he doesn’t want a relationship but you just thought it wouldn’t be fair if you didn’t let him know how you feel. If you tell him you’re comfortable to continue doing what you’re doing then it shouldn’t make things awkward either. Hopefully he wants to be more than friends! Good luck :) xx
atimelordslove asked: Please answer quickly if you can.. I really need your help. My boyfriend says he doesn't see me as a girlfriend when we hang out. He said it feels like we aren't even dating and that we are just friends.... I don't know what to do! Can I fix this? How? Help me please
Uhm… I can’t really help you with this directly because I don’t know why your boyfriend feels that way. You need to sit down with him and ask him why he feels like you are just a friend. Ask him if it’s something you are doing/not doing or if it’s just the way he feels. Ask him if there’s anything you can do to make him see you as a girlfriend. If he just sees you like a friend, maybe it’s because he doesn’t have those kind of romantic feelings for you. I’m not sure how long you’ve been together but maybe there hasn’t been a chance for them to develop yet. Or maybe he’s just saying that because he’s not sure if he wants a girlfriend anymore. I’m not sure, love. You need to ask him.
Sorry I haven’t been much help but good luck xx
Anonymous asked: I'm in love with this guy, but I'm starting to have feelings for another guy. Help?
How can I help you? You haven’t told me anything…. except that you have feelings for two guys. Are you sick of the first guy and even though you love him, you’re ready for something new? I have no idea… If you be more specific maybe I can try to help you out more. Sorry..
Anonymous asked: my boyfriend always asks me to care him and love him the way he do. But i never find the right words to say and im always shy.. We are in a serious relationship and we have done everything together, yet im shy when it comes to sharing and telling him whts in my heart.. What should i do to make these things right
Maybe if you can’t say them out loud you should try writing him a letter and if still you think you don’t know what to say, make him a CD of songs that have lyrics in them that explain the way you feel about your boyfriend. Tell him that you love him a lot but don’t know the right words to explain your feelings.
Hope this helps!
Anonymous asked: I'm talking to girls right now and I have strong feelings for both. One of them would be like a long term relationship and the other would just be a short term fun kinda relationship. Yet I don't know what to do. I would really like to become close friends with the girl I can have the long term relationship with and have a fun relationship with the other. Any advice?
You can’t expect the girl you want the “long term relationship” with to be waiting around for when you’ve finished having fun with the other girl. Whoever you choose first means taking a risk of missing out on the other.
You can’t have both girls (unless they are into that, hey.. who knows haha) I think you should probably keep talking to both of them (don’t lead them on!) and hang out with them, and see who you get along with better or are more comfortable with. If you just wanna be friends with the long term girl then make that very clear to her from the start, so that she can’t turn around later on and be like “you lead me on! i didn’t know you didn’t want a relationship!” or whatever she might say.
Be as honest as you can without hurting their feelings (though if you keep talking to both of them you may unintentionally hurt one of them). Hope this helps.
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