I have some posts queued for you guys but I need some help with something. Who’s good at sentimental gift giving? It’s for mine and the boyfriend’s 3 year anniversary which is on Friday and I need to get something done asap (I already have the present, just need your help to decide something), as in tomorrow. Just private message me on here if you’d like to help me decide on something!
I would really, really, really appreciate it :)
Anonymous asked: Okay, so im 15 and I met this guy over my xbox a week ago. He is 19 and super nice and i've met him in person and ai really like him. I talked to my mom and she told me to stop talking to him because of my age. But I know some people say "age is just a number" amd "jail is just a room" type thing . But I know he cares about me and watches out for me. Help! What should I do?
Well obviously as a mother she’s not going to impressed about a 4 year age difference because “boys only want one thing” da da da… she’s just trying to look out for you. Also, it’s fine that you’re speaking to this guy, but it’s only been a week. You cant know for sure what his intentions are at all. I probably sound like a mother, but I know what people can be like… and I’m not saying you are, but sometimes 15 year olds can be naive… heck even 25 year olds can be naive but still just be careful. Like I said it’s perfectly fine for you to speak to him and be friends but make sure you know who you’re talking to and that he isn’t just speaking to you because he wants something from you. Maybe he sees you as a younger sister and is looking out for you and cares about you in that way.. I don’t know. You can be the judge of his character yourself, but if your mum wont let you see him, tell her you see him with a group of people and you always bring a friend along and you’re just friends with him. She should ease up if she knows that you just want to be friends with him. Also, if you can get him and a bunch of friends to come over so your mum could meet him, that would probably help.
Best of luck xx
Anonymous asked: I need your help, Im a guy and my gf broke up with me a couple of months ago for no reason she just left me , the problem is that i cant get over her , im finding it very hard , and im still inove with her but dont know what to do , please help me??
Maybe you can’t get over her cause you don’t have closure? I mean because you said she broke up with you for no reason. If that’s the case then you probably need to try speaking to her and asking her if it was anything you did in particular and tell her that you just need to know if it was because of you, or just because of her feelings so you can move on. As well as doing that, you just need time. As unfortunate as that is, time is the best thing for healing. Well time, and ice cream. And spending as much time with your friends as possible. Or throwing yourself into weekly hobbies or sports. Once someone told me that the amount of time you’ve known someone, is usually about the amount of time it takes to get over them. So if you were with her for a year, it will take a year to get over the break up completely. I mean it’s not always the case but I guess it’s something to go by.
I hope you find someone who deserves you :) Best of luck x
Anonymous asked: while me and my bf of over a year were in a huge fight i met this guy. he knows i have a bf and he is so nice. he moved . i dont like to text him so i told him i got my phone got taken away and we only really talk over skype. me and my bf are both really protective and he doesnt know about this. should i just stop talking to this guy? or what do i do? please help?
If you think you are starting to develop feelings for this other guy but you love your boyfriend and the relationship you have, then yes, stop speaking to him. Otherwise, if you definitely think you can be just friends with this guy, tell your boyfriend about him. Your boyfriend might be upset at first but he will be happy that you have told him about it. It’s not fair to hide things from your boyfriend because I’m sure you wouldn’t appreciate it if he did it to you and you found out later on some other way. When you tell him just say you’ve just been speaking to him every now and then, he’s a nice guy and you’re just friends and he knows about your boyfriend and you talk about your boyfriend to him etc. Just to make him feel more at ease. Say that you didn’t want to hide it from him because you thought it wasn’t fair on him but that you’re allowed to have guy friends or whatever else you want to say. If you don’t want to be with your boyfriend anymore then you need to tell him, as soon as possible. Don’t drag it out.
Good luck.
Anonymous asked: i need your help.. i like this guy and he likes me. i really want to go out with him and i asked him do you think we will ever go out? and he said "dont know" he calls me babe and says he loves me. i dont want to ask him out because i feel its a guys job to do it. what should i do?
Well first of all, girls need to get out of the mindset that it’s a boys job to do the asking out. That is ridiculous! If you don’t take the initiative with guys sometimes, you’re never gonna get anywhere with them. Half of the time they’re just as scared as you are.
Anyway, if you want to go out with him then ask him when he’s free to catch up. And then after you meet up or while you’re together you could say “I’m having a really good time, we should do this more often :)” and just see what his reaction is. If it’s a good reaction then maybe after you’ve seen each other a few more times you could bring up being in a relationship again. Just take it as it comes. And don’t leave everything up to him!
Good luck xx
atimelordslove asked: Please answer quickly if you can.. I really need your help. My boyfriend says he doesn't see me as a girlfriend when we hang out. He said it feels like we aren't even dating and that we are just friends.... I don't know what to do! Can I fix this? How? Help me please
Uhm… I can’t really help you with this directly because I don’t know why your boyfriend feels that way. You need to sit down with him and ask him why he feels like you are just a friend. Ask him if it’s something you are doing/not doing or if it’s just the way he feels. Ask him if there’s anything you can do to make him see you as a girlfriend. If he just sees you like a friend, maybe it’s because he doesn’t have those kind of romantic feelings for you. I’m not sure how long you’ve been together but maybe there hasn’t been a chance for them to develop yet. Or maybe he’s just saying that because he’s not sure if he wants a girlfriend anymore. I’m not sure, love. You need to ask him.
Sorry I haven’t been much help but good luck xx
Anonymous asked: hey, so me and my boyfriend been dating for a month now, and we have sooo much in common and im crazy about himm, and hes always telling me he cares about me and tht he can never be madd at mee ... im trying to send him a sweet textt message to him but all my thoughts are jumbled together that i dont know what to say , can you help me :(
Sure I can.. Just say what you feel as you feel it. If you really love having him as a part of your life, tell him. If you’re really excited about getting to know him better on a different level, tell him. If you think you can see yourself having a future with him, tell him. If that still doesn’t work, you could try sending him lyrics to a song that relate to how you feel :)
Best of luck xx
Anonymous asked: I need help :( My boyfriend said our relationship sucks lately, which I kinda does. He said its like we aren't even dating.. All we do when we hang out is go to his house and watch tv and fool around. Never really anything else. I think we just need to get out and do things as a couple like dates or double dates.. Do you think that will help?
I sure do. The relationship can get boring if you do the same thing every time you see each other. You definitely need to try new things. Maybe when you go to his house you can cook a nice dinner together. You can go out on a movie date, a lunch date, a dinner date. Grab a bunch of your friends and a bunch of his friends and go ice skating or rollerblading. Tell him to bring a friend who’s single and one of your friends that are single and go out somewhere together. Go to a party. Ask him what his favourite play station or Wii game is and tell him to teach you how to play it. Get him to help you wash your car. Go for a walk with your pets together. Um, anything! Obviously you don’t want to be going out all the time, because sometimes it’s nice to just relax together but you don’t want to be just doing that. Also, if you see each other a lot, try and see each other a bit less for a while to make it feel like you’re starting fresh and actually ‘dating’ each other again :)
I hope it gets better love :)
Anonymous asked: My boyfriends kinda making me feel shit, its like he doesn't really care.. he was getting annoyed by my cutting, isn't he suppost to be supportive and help me through it? not tell his friends its annoying him?.. Also hes added my cousin and she said he was cute and giving her cute advice, I felt gutted.. I feel like I mean jack shit to him and Im sick of it. He knows when I get angry about it, but then he just assumes im gonna dump him.. help? :(
This is a bit confusing, love but I’ll try to help you. If you have problems with depression and cutting, don’t you think it would be best to get help from a professional about it? Your boyfriend probably doesn’t know how to deal with it and in turn gets frustrated about it because he can’t help you and takes it out on you. I think for yours, and your relationship’s sake, you should definitely seek help. He is supposed to be supportive and help you, yes, but he can’t if he doesn’t know how. Why don’t you go and see someone together so he can learn how to help you? About him adding your cousin, it’s possible he’s just being friendly and because you’re upset about other things, it’s making you see it in a bad way. If you want to say something to your cousin about calling him cute, then you can do that but just be calm about it. Just say I would prefer it if you didn’t call my boyfriend cute… it makes me uncomfortable” or whatever it is you want to say. Maybe being in a relationship is not the best thing for you right now.. it seems like it’s just making it harder to sort out your own issues. You say he makes you feel like you mean nothing to him and you’re sick of it, so maybe you need to talk a break from each other.
I really hope I haven’t offended you but I just want you to worry about what’s best for yourself right now. That should be your top priority. Best of luck with everything and if you need anything else you know where to find me xx
Anonymous asked: I really wanna give my boyfriend an amazing morning text.. I just don't know what to say? Help please? :)
Aw, well how about you just start it off by saying “good morning my amazing gorgeous boyfriend. Just wanted to say that I hope you have a really good day and I can’t wait until I see you next. I love you xoxox” If you’re looking for something a bit longer than that then you could try telling him exactly what you love about him, the things he does for you and how much you love him.
Hope this helps :)
Anonymous asked: I'm suck. Deciding over two boys that like me, I wont say there name's therefore shall call one 'A' and the other 'B'! A is lovely guy,yet his appearance is putting me off. B is also lovely however he said he loves me even though he has only known me for a couple of months. Who do i choose?! Also it has been my birthday on the 22nd and B bought me a present worth £92 so should i get him one even if we do not go out or i do not like him?? pleaseeeeeee help :)
I have no idea who you should choose. For me, liking someone has always been more about personality. I mean obviously you have to be attracted to the person, but personality was always more important. Think about who you can see yourself with in the long term or who is going to make you happier.
You don’t have to spend £92 on B, but it would be nice if you bought him something too, yes. If he went to the effort to get you something nice for your birthday then you should do the same. Even if you’re just friends. It doesn’t have to be expensive, but just put some thought into it.
Anonymous asked: Ok Hi! So about a month ago my brother was on a baseball team with this guy who liked me. We fell in love instantly and we r now dating. The thing is we had never talked until he got my number. This is the funny part, he paid my brother $40 cash for my number. Is that bad? It also kinda bothers me that his 3 best friends like me too, and he doesnt care... is this bad....
Hahahaha I’m sorry but that is so funny.. I can’t believe your brother accepted $40 for your number! I wouldn’t say it’s bad cause it was your brother and not some random guy… but it’s still pretty strange. I mean, it would’ve been a lot cheaper to just ask you for your number himself LOL. Sorry for laughing but seriously, guys will do anything wont they? Anyway, if you’re happy, so what how he got your number? Obviously he really likes you if he went to that much trouble to get your number. And maybe he feels flattered that other people like you and he thinks “well she’s my girlfriend so too bad for them.” Or, maybe it does bother him but he’s just pretending he doesn’t care. If you haven’t spoken to him about it, then I would suggest you do and try and find out how he feels about it.
All the best :) x
I need some help..
Ok, I have this boyfriend, hes called Rhys, he lives about 2 minutes away from me, but we never meet up. But that’s not the problem, There is this other guy.. Hes called Alex, He lives 400 miles away from me. I like Alex, I mean.. Like like, Love. Rhys doesn’t know, but I webcam with Alex, and Alex came out he loves me. So I told him I love him too, Alex has told me he’ll get plane tickets to see me, Or i’ll get them. I want to see him, but that means I leave everything behind, Me and Alex want 3 kids. (I’m 16) And really, I’m not scared of having kids, but I’m scared Rhys will find out, Can you just help me please? I’m stuck..
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Wow okay. You do know that what you’re doing is cheating, right? You want help? Break up with Rhys if you want to be with Alex so much. How is this even… how is what you have to do not clear? How are you stuck? I don’t think it could be any clearer. You obviously don’t even care about Rhys because you’re a) doing things behind his back and b) never organising to see him… If he lives two minutes away and you consider him your boyfriend why would you never see him? Break up with him and let him be happy with someone else who will actually appreciate him.
Anonymous asked: So me and my boyfriend of just over a year have a long distance relationship. At first it started off amazing and i love him to pieces but lately i keep saying the dumbest things and we end up falling out. He keeps saying i need to make more of an effort but over the phone what else can i do other than send him pictures and texts? HELP.
If he wants you to make more of an effort, why don’t you try sending him a package full of little goodies? Make him a CD of your favourite songs. Or maybe you could both say that at the time of day when you miss each other the most, you’ll take a picture of where you are and send it to each other. It could be while you’re laying in bed of an empty pillow next to you, or when you’re on the train and there’s an empty seat, or when you’re watching TV and wish he was watching it with you - whatever it is. Maybe he wants you to show him that you miss him / need him etc. Another thing you could do is ask him what exactly he means and what he wants you to do more of. If you only ask me and not him what he means, I can’t give you the full story because I don’t know him.
Good luck anyways dear x
Anonymous asked: I'm in love with this guy, but I'm starting to have feelings for another guy. Help?
How can I help you? You haven’t told me anything…. except that you have feelings for two guys. Are you sick of the first guy and even though you love him, you’re ready for something new? I have no idea… If you be more specific maybe I can try to help you out more. Sorry..
