Anonymous asked: P1- hey I really need advice on my realationship and u r very wise. Me n my ex bf broke up abt two days ago after 7 months of dating. I love him so much but o broke up wit him because he told me he didn't know where the relationship was going and that he was unsure of his feelings. His family told him that by six months he should know if he would like to marry me or not.. which I think its true. I just don't know what to do anymore. I miss him n he is my bestfriend. When we broke up he only said
(continued) “okay” … I feel like maybe he doesn’t want me in his life. We havent talked and of I hadn’t texted him today maybe we wouldn’t have talked again. I just want him in my life. He is 26 and I am 21. All his relationships have failed because he is unsure of his feelings. Wat should I do?
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I don’t know if I agree with the whole “6 month marriage rule” but after seven months you should definitely know whether you want to spend more time with that person or not. I think that you were right to break up with him. You shouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t know whether they want to be with you. I mean if someone really loves you and wants to be with you, they make sure you cant get away, and make sure that you know how much they love you. I think it’s okay to want him in your life, you can be friends if you think you can handle that, but as for being with him, I don’t think it’ll work out. I mean if at 26 years old you still don’t know how to interpret your own feelings then he’s obviously not very mature, or you’re not the one for him. The fact that you broke up with him and he didn’t even try to fight it should be proof enough. If you REALLY want to be with him and you really think you can make it work then try meeting up in person and talking to him. Ask him questions that make him think like “why don’t you know?” “what’s holding you back?” etc.
Hope this helps and good luck x
Anonymous asked: Hey there, i really love your blog ! but i actually came to ask you for advice..I've been in a relationship with a guy for 9months & i really love(d) him but he cheated on me more than once. anyways, we broke up 7months ago, we didn't broke up with a fight or something he just left me without a reason. In the past 7months we still talked to eachother sometimes, i don't know what he wants one day he's like 'i miss you babe' &other days he's like 'i dont want you' please help, i still love him :(
Why do you love someone who thinks you’re worthless?
Just think about that. I mean, if he REALLY loved you, would he have cheated on you? I don’t think so. All he means when he says “I miss you” is that “I’m bored and no girls are giving me attention so I’ll run to my ex, she will give me attention!!” Seriously, that’s all it means. You might think you love him but perhaps that’s just because you don’t know any better.. especially if he was your first serious relationship. For goodness sake, HE CHEATED ON YOU!!! Why on earth would you want to go back to that life? Why would you want to put yourself through that AGAIN?
Ditch the loser, block him, delete him, delete his number - do whatever you have to do to keep him out of your life because seriously he is not even worth one minute of your time. Do it for your own self worth if for nothing else.
Anonymous asked: i met this guy a month ago and i'm starting to like him,we hanged out 2 times and second time he kissed me a lot.we kept in touch on facebook.he told me a couple times that he misses me and lately he wanted to hangout with me,i couldn't because i had other plans,and from that day he started ignoring me.i dont know what to do help me,i tried talking to him on facebook but it didn't work out,what should i say to him.P.S i dont want him to know that i like him i just want to get his attention first
Hmm well sounds like someone is a little immature. Just because you couldn’t hang out with him once, he’s going to ignore you? That’s not very fair. I think you should call him (if you have his number) and ask him what day he’s free because you want to see him. Maybe he got the wrong message when you told him you couldn’t hang out with him and thought you didn’t want to or that you were just making up excuses. If you call him and ask him when he’s free to hang out then it’s harder for him to make up an excuse because he can’t really see “Um well I’m busy for the rest of the year” if he doesn’t want to see you. That way if you ask if he’s free he will have to say a day when he is. Or maybe you should call him and ask him if he’s free on a day when you are… You don’t have to tell him you like him but you can just say I really hope you can come cause I like hanging out with you, or something along those lines.
Good luck xxx
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I, we had being date about 1 years. We also in long distance relationship. But, I dont know what is wrong with me. I cannot talks to him like other couples. Just texting. A couple week ago, he said I dont have trust on him. I told him I do trust him. After that, he never reply my texts. What should i do? Im quite miss him.
Try to call him instead of texting. I know you said you can’t talk to him but you have to try. Maybe you could have a date over skype, so that you can talk and see each other. I’m not sure why he thinks you don’t trust him, but you need to talk to him about that and find out why. Call him and ask him to meet you on skype at a certain time because you miss him and want to see his face and see how you go from there.
Good luck!
Anonymous asked: So this guy really liked me but at the time I didn't really know how I felt about hime besides already being friends and he told me how he felt but I just said I wanted to be freinds because I'm not sure what I'm looking for right now. We havnt really talked in awhile but I miss it, and may like him, what do I do? Do I do anything?
Sounds to me like you’re only missing him because there’s no one else in your life to miss. If you haven’t talked in a while how can you think you like him? What if he’s changed?
If you really do miss him and not the idea of having a boyfriend, then start talking to him again. Build up the friendship again and see how it goes from there.
Good luck.
