Anonymous asked: Hi, so I've been with my boyfriend for one and a half months. Our relationship started off with us communicating a lot, but recently we rarely talk anymore. More and more whenever I call him, I find that he doesn't answer. When I text him, he doesn't reply. Just last night I asked if he was awake and he told me he was at a party and apologized about not replying previously for he was partying again. I was hurt and angry, I haven't talked to him since then. I'm afraid to bring it up because
(continued..) he tends to manipulate any argument we have making me seem immature. I appreciate any advice or suggestions you have. Thank you for your time and patience.
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Well if you’re feeling this way then you need to tell him exactly how you feel. It isn’t going to magically get better if you sit there and say nothing.. it’s going to get worse. I think that you need to see him in person and you need to tell him how you’re feeling. Tell him that you’re unhappy with the way you’re being treated and if he wants to be in this relationship he needs to put in 100% and not 50%.. he has to want to be in the relationship. If he tries to turn the argument against you just say “these are my feelings. you need to respect and accept the way I feel and you should be trying your best to stop me from feeling this way.”
If talking to him doesn’t change anything then I think you know where you stand. Good luck.
dave3241 asked: So i really like this girl I already told her im in love with her an she said she feels the same way too, but lately my parents have been so busy so i couldnt hang out with her, her dad passed away days ago an i wasnt there for the funeral she asked to hang out with me again after the funeral an i couldnt make it, i asked if she was mad at me, she admitted it, i tried call her but she said she was busy What do i do to tell her im sorry ive already apologized too much its getting kind of old help
Uhm, I’m really not sure what to say here. I mean I guess it just all amounts to bad timing really. As for what to do.. if you don’t want to keep apologising, then don’t. It’s up to her to forgive you and if you don’t think she’s worth the effort then don’t bother. If you want to keep trying, then call her and tell her you really have to see her and to meet you somewhere and if she says she’s busy then you’re going to assume that means she doesn’t want to see you. When you do see her, just apologise in person and mean it and explain what happened and that it was all bad timing and you’re sorry etc. She should take it better in person when she can see that you’re sincere.
Best of luck x
h0llyb0llyy asked: i cheated on my boyfriend of two years, on this kid one night that i don't even care about. i'm only 16, and i guess it was just curiusity since i've never really had another boyfriend. i told him, and obviously he got mad. he doesn't know what to do if he is going to leave me or not, but he says we're hanging out tomorrow.. what do i do? i've told him how much i was sorry, is it just cause he needs time? we have a really strong relationship.
Well it’s disappointing that you cheated on him but you know it was wrong and you’ve been honest with him so I’m not going to jump down your throat about it. You also haven’t made any excuses like “I was drunk” or whatever, which shows maturity. Obviously you made the choice to cheat on him and now you just have to deal with whatever the consequences are.
Of course your boyfriend needs time. Please, please put yourself in his shoes. How would you be feeling right now if your boyfriend had cheated on you? Not very good I would assume.
I think it’s good that you are going to see each other because he is probably very upset and confused and has a lot of things to ask you. Be as honest with him as you possibly can. Do not continue with your life thinking that he is going to stay with you, because there’s a pretty big possibility that he wont. Once you see him though, you do need to tell him that you understand if he needs space and time and that you will give it to him. Do not try and contact him after that.. let him come to you if he wants to. If you push him, it will make it worse.
Maybe he will come back to you and maybe he will forgive you but you cant expect an overnight miracle. Especially depending on what type of cheating it was, if you actually slept with another guy or just kissed him, it will still be a long, hard road to forgiveness and to get him to trust you again, so don’t think it will be easy. It wont be. And if he makes it easy for you, then you’re a very lucky girl.
Good luck with it all, I hope that he does forgive you but next time you feel curious you should wait until you end the relationship to go ahead and actually be curious.
Anonymous asked: i'm sorry in advance, but this is going to be a 2 parter: okay so i've liked this boy at work since he started which was back in feburary and we used to work the same shifts, we'd flirt a lot and i gave him my number and then we texted for awhile and then i stopped because he liked another girl along with me, well she quit and then i started to talk to him more because i knew he wouldn't be preoccupied. then his shifts changed and i barely see him anymore and we'd still text, but not as often...
then last week my friend text me saying that he was asking about me and how he’s gonna miss me when i leave (i’m moving in a few weeks to a different town 3 hour away) and that lifted my spirits. last week we were texting and he started calling me wifey, boo and baby and i thought it was weird well turns out he said that he got my number mixed up. i was mad obviously but i’m calling bs because he asked me a few weeks ago when i was moving. is it possible that he said that because he was embarrassed or because to like make me jealous that he’s probably talking to another girl and in turn, that’d make me want to get with him? my second question: i’m obviously not going to give up on him even though i’m leaving in a few weeks but i just would like to possibly hook up with him and then leave because that way i know i’d achieve something worthwhile at work. that’s probably a bad idea but this kid is good looking. or should i just not do anything and move on? sorry this was so long.
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No worries about it being long! Get it all out :) haha hmmmmm. It is possible that he said that he got you mixed up with another girl (that’s pretty impossible to do, unless you have the same name) to make you jealous, or maybe because you didn’t take it the way he wanted you to and he was embarrassed. Personally, I think you should text him and say “Hey I was just wondering if you were free this *Saturday* (or whichever day) to go and have lunch/see a movie/go for a walk” - whatever it may be and see what he replies. If you do meet up, put your hand on his hand in the movies, or brush your hand against his when you’re walking and towards the end of the date (not too close to the end) try to kiss him. I know that probably sounds scary but if that’s what you want to do then do it! If it backfires, you’ll be leaving soon and wont have to face him anyway! If you think that you’ll end up liking him then you probably shouldn’t kiss him if you’re going to be moving away because that’ll just confuse both of your feelings.
Good luck with it all :) xx
