Anonymous asked: ILY By the way!!! okk im going crazy and i need your truthful advice. okk so i have been with this girl for four months now and i love her. the past few weeks she has been texting her ex girlfriend alot and i think she still has feeling for her because their relationship lasted four years. she has been distance lately and alot much moody. i have there convo over text and my gf texts to nice to her ex gf. and my gf is going to her exs graduationim i just being paranoid or or should i be worried??
I wouldn’t say you’re being paranoid, they’re completely normal feelings to have when exes are involved. I really think you should tell your girlfriend how you feel about her speaking to her ex girlfriend. Maybe she doesn’t know you feel this way. If your girlfriend hasn’t given you a reason not to trust her, then no you shouldn’t be worried but you should be aware of the situation and how much they speak to each other or what they speak about. Four years is a long time to be in a relationship with someone and you don’t get over it easily and there’s no doubt that she still loves her ex, because she always will but that doesn’t mean she’s “in love” in such a way that she wants to be with her. Does that make sense?
Definitely speak to your girlfriend and explain your feelings. Tell her you trust her but you’re just uncomfortable with her speaking to her ex girlfriend and ask her to put herself in your shoes and see how she would feel.
Good luck xx
Anonymous asked: I talk to this guy that my boyfriend doesn’t get along with anymore. My boyfriend knows I text him and stuff. My boyfriends on holiday and comes back on Saturday but in his absence this other guy has been texting me a lot and has asked me to the cinema several times despite me saying no, we haven’t texted anything sexual but ive got to know his likes and dislikes a lot more in my boyfriends absence. Everytime I talk to my boyfriend about the other guy he gets mad and says he trusts me so nothing
(continued) ..else should matter, but should I tell him? And is me texting this other guy essentially me cheating?
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I wouldn’t call it cheating because it’s not like you’re keeping it a secret from your boyfriend that you text this guy. I would say it will be a branch out of cheating if you started liking him while you’re still with your boyfriend, or being flirty or whatever, but there’s nothing wrong with having guy friends even if you have a boyfriend.
Now, obviously your boyfriend gets mad because there’s a reason that they don’t get along. If you don’t know the reason why, I would suggest you find out because that could be why your boyfriend doesn’t like you speaking to him. Maybe he told your boyfriend that he likes you or maybe he’s stolen a friends girlfriend in the past or something like that.. who knows. It’s not strange for your boyfriend to get upset that you speak to him, even if he does trust you. Maybe he trusts you but he doesn’t trust the other guy and obviously he has a reason for that (especially since this guy keeps trying to ask you out which is pretty rude considering the circumstances.)
I think that once you speak to your boyfriend and ask him why he doesn’t like this other guy or why he gets so upset that you speak to him, you can then make the decision to tell him that the other guy asked you to go to the cinemas with him. If the reason they don’t get along is because of something that happened in the past, then I think that it’s okay that you leave the whole ‘cinema’ thing out of the conversation - you didn’t go anyway and telling your boyfriend would only upset him and make him not like the other guy even more. If this other guy keeps asking you out though, I think that he’s probably getting the wrong kind of messages from you and you will need to make it clear that you love your boyfriend and want nothing more than friendship with this other guy.
Good luck with it all, I hope all that made sense! xx
Ps. Put yourself in your boyfriend’s shoes. Don’t do anything that you would be uncomfortable with your boyfriend doing to you….
Anonymous asked: Me and this guy started constantly texting, he was really caring and nice and would say sweet things and always compliment me, now he seems dull and I am the one to text first and the convo quickly ends where it used to last for hours. when I see him in person he is quiet around me now and smiles and stares a lot. I was thinking maybe he does because he's just attracted to me but realized he lost interest or something? I don't want to annoy him if this is the case by continuing to text him first
Okay well there’s really only one way to deal with this and that is to ask him. Just text him and say
“Hey I was just wondering if something’s up or if I did something wrong because you seem pretty distant lately compared to how you used to be. Is everything okay?”
And hopefully that will get him to open up about what’s going on. If he insists that everything is fine, then try not to text him and see if he texts you first. If he does, maybe he does like you or is interested but has some other issues going on or is busy with something. If not, then he probably isn’t interested in you. Sometimes someone can seem like they are really into you and then out of nowhere their feelings will change. Some people are just like that. Definitely find out from him first though because there’s no use sitting around wondering and making up theories in your head!
Best of luck :)
Anonymous asked: so me and my bf have been going out for a little over a year and yesterday me and him where txting all lovey dovey and i noticed he doesnt reply for a while but i say eh hes probably bussy or somthing then all of a sudden he txted me saying "i dont think this is going 2 work out" i reply what!?(in shock) and he forwards the same txt again i then reply but why what happend i love you and u do too ? he said a guy told u he liked u and u didnt tell me nun i said what?! all he said was take care :"(
I don’t know if there was another part to this, but this is extremely strange. If your boyfriend was willing to dump you over text, especially after being together for a whole year, and not even talk to you about whatever it was he heard about some other guy liking you, then he isn’t worth it anyway! What the hell is that? That’s just idiotic. For closure, I think you should go to his house or call him (if he doesn’t answer, call his house phone) and tell him that you think he’s an idiot and how dare he do that to you and if he’s not even willing to get the truth out of you but just listen to what other people say then he’s not even worth your time anyway! and hang up. If you want to hear what he has to say then stay on the phone, but I wouldn’t recommend it.
This is so strange. Sorry that happened to you >< Good luck with whatever happens love.
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I, we had being date about 1 years. We also in long distance relationship. But, I dont know what is wrong with me. I cannot talks to him like other couples. Just texting. A couple week ago, he said I dont have trust on him. I told him I do trust him. After that, he never reply my texts. What should i do? Im quite miss him.
Try to call him instead of texting. I know you said you can’t talk to him but you have to try. Maybe you could have a date over skype, so that you can talk and see each other. I’m not sure why he thinks you don’t trust him, but you need to talk to him about that and find out why. Call him and ask him to meet you on skype at a certain time because you miss him and want to see his face and see how you go from there.
Good luck!
Anonymous asked: This guy and I have been texting for a while now, somewhere around 4 months now. We went on a date the other day and had NOTHING to talk about. Over text we talk about anything and everything! How can I make it less awkward?! I am kind of starting to like him, but I know he just wants to be friends..
Maybe if you try to talk less over text/internet and start seeing each other more, then it will become less awkward. Sometimes it’s hard to convert relationships from online/text to real life but once you become more comfortable seeing each other in real life then it will be less awkward. As for liking him, maybe he just wants to be friends because he’s only met you once and doesn’t know if you can be in a real life relationship too. If you keep seeing him, maybe he will change his mind. Also next time you meet up, before you go out, think of things that you want to ask him about and make sure you ask him when you see him..
Hi, it´s me again. If you don´t remember, http://yourcutetexts.tumblr.com/post/25777702063/i-need-advice ;)
I just.. Things are not going as I planned. I thought that I could just text him and you know, we would start talking again and everything would be good. But as I said earlier, it seems like he doesn´t like to text. Well, he doesn’t. I actually asked him once. Anyway, I asked him how he had been, and if he´d done anything fun this summer. He answered that he´d been working a lot. Then I answered him that I´ve been working some too, and asked him where he´d been working. but then he didn´t answer. I know it seems like he isn´t a nice guy, but the thing is I´ve seen the other side of him. I know he can give more, he have given me more before. We´ve talked some on facebook, and there he has been asking stuff too and he has kept the conversation going too. When I said bye he said “cya :)” .And when we was going to the same school we talked some too. Once in school he came up to me and asked me if I listened to Story of the year, and when I said yes he said that I had good taste in music. Should I just ask him if it´s me he doesn´t like or if he just doesn´t want a relationship? I don´t know why, but when he said “I´m not gonna keep your hopes up” it didn´t really feel like he said that because he don´t like me. It seemed more like.. I don´t know. Maybe I´m just over-analyzing this. Should I just wait and see what happens? Should I move on or fight for him? I like him so much. I think about him all the time, but if he doesn´t like me I don´t want to force him to talk to me :p
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Haha, I do remember! If he doesn’t like to text, have you tried calling him? Or organising a time to meet up in person? Don’t ask him such straight out questions like “do you want a relationship” because he wont know how to let you down easy and he wont want to hurt your feelings. Try asking about his past relationships and hopefully that will lead onto the topic of if he wants a girlfriend. Maybe because you told him that you like him, he doesn’t want to text you because he thinks he’s leading you on. If he doesn’t want to meet up with you or makes excuses I think you should take that as a means to let go and assume that he doesn’t want to be with you. If you don’t text him or speak to him, maybe he will come after you and speak to you first. Who knows?
Good luck with it all :) xx
Anonymous asked: I met this guy and we were chatting over facebook. Then he said he had to go so he gave me his phone number. So we have been texting for awhile, but he never texts me first. But he always texts me back right away. So now I have waited a week to see if he would text first and he hasn't. So I'm starting to think he doesn't like me. What should I do?
Text him again and ask what he’s been up to. Keep the conversation going (if he isn’t giving one word answers) and then maybe (if it seems right) ask if he wants to meet up. If you meet up and don’t hear from him after that, you have your answer. He may just not be texting you cause he doesn’t want to seem obsessive/clingy which is why he hasn’t texted you. Try texting him again and if he doesn’t continue the conversation, he probably isn’t interested.
Good luck though love.
Anonymous asked: I'm texting this boy who lives 30 minutes away from me and we both really like each other. We really need to meet up sometime but i'm just way too scared to agree to do it. I really want to meet up with him because I know then we'll be able to start going out but I'm too scared to actually meet up with him! This really needs to happen because we've been kind of seeing each other for over 3 months now, HELP!
Hi dear. My advice is to take your time. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two and a half years and we were speaking online/through texts for 3 months before we met up and I’m actually glad I waited until I was ready to meet him :) So don’t rush it. If you don’t feel ready, don’t do it.
I’m not sure what you need help on but, maybe instead of meeting up just the two of you, you could ask him to bring a friend and you could bring a friend to take the pressure off meeting him alone in real life.
Not sure if this will help but if you need me to be more specific, let me know :) xxx
vrodriguez5 asked: I had been texting this guy for 2 weeks, everyday. We would text good morning,good night,what are you up to?and talk about the most random things but always reply back. I would always feel bad because I would be a slow texter while he would response right away. When asked,he didn't want to tell his bestfriend what he thinks of me.Me and him are going to different colleges next year.He suddenly stopped texting me,&three days later,I texted but the convo ended and he hasnt texted me since; I text?
I would say no, don’t text. If you texted last and he wouldn’t continue the conversation then it doesn’t seem like he’s interested anymore. It sucks, but sometimes people just do that. For your own peace of mind if you really want to try texting him again, then wait a week or so since you last texted him and see what happens from there.
Good luck!
Anonymous asked: so i just started dating this guy about a month ago.. and hes sending me the cutest texts.. but i never know how to reply... and i feel so bad.. i really like him im just not very good at showing or saying it x( for example he sent me this text and it said "Have i ever told you how beautiiful you were? :) " and i had NO idea what to reply ? what would be a good reply to a text like this?
Hey lovely, once you get more comfortable with this boy, the feelings will just start spilling out, trust me, you wont be able to help it!
Until then, I guess what you could reply to a text like that could be something cute like “No, but I think you just did.. thankyou (insert real name or name like “cutie” here)” or something flirty like “Well.. you have now, but…. you could tell me again =p”
Just depends what you want to convey to him! If it’s not easy for you to talk about your feelings, why don’t you try finding a song with lyrics that relate to your situation with this boy and send him the song? That’s a good way of saying a lot, without having to technically say anything!
Good luck! Message me again if you need any other help :)
