Anonymous asked: I've asked other questions before on your Tumblr and i love what i hear from you! Ibut id like to ask another. My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago and I try to date hoping I will stop thinking abouthim. It hasnt worked and I dont knlw waht to do. I know he says he loves me, but how do i know? He always wants to know bout my past and everything. But I freak out everytime I go to tell him. My past is pretty bad. Any ideas?
I’m not sure who/what you’re talking about towards the end of your ask but as for getting over someone, THE WORST thing you can do, is get with another guy straight away. That is the WORST idea. Seriously. Take time off from guys and get used to being on your own. Learn to make yourself happy and love yourself and just live your life and love will find you. I know that sounds dumb and cliche but it could not be more true. Love knows when you are ready and it finds you.
As for telling people about your past, anyone who loves you and trusts you and appreciates you will accept you for everything you are. Including your past. You’ll see what I mean when you meet the right person.
Best of luck.
Anonymous asked: I've been dating my boyfriend for about three years now, and he proposed to me. As much as i like him, I'm nineteen years old. He gave me the ring to think about it, what do i do!? Sometimes i think marrying him would be wonderful, and other times i think it would be the worst thing ever and we would be divorced before forty. Advice please!!
I’ve answered this message as soon as I saw it because I figure it’s kind of urgent that you get a reply.
Wow, a proposal? That is gigantic! The fact that you’re even having any doubts shows that you’re not ready. And I applaud you for not just saying “YES YES YES” in the moment. You have to really, really think about what it is that you want out of the relationship in the future and if he can give it to you. Nineteen years old is young to get married, but if you feel ready, there shouldn’t be any reason against it.
Is your boyfriend older than you? If he is, it’s possible that he’s experienced more than you have and knows that he wants to be with you forever, and is ready for it. Marrying him, if you love him, will be wonderful, but it will also be incredibly difficult. You cannot go into something like that thinking it will be easy breezy because it won’t be. Personally, I would never be able to marry someone who I haven’t lived with first. How do you know you’ll be able to live with someone for the rest of your life if you don’t give it a test run first?
You could suggest using the ring as a promise ring instead because you really want to be with him but you’re not ready for something like marriage just yet. You need to be 100% honest with him. If he loves you, there should be no rush to get married anyway. You can still love someone without being married. Maybe you could say yes to being engaged but that you don’t even want to think about the wedding unless you feel ready.
Just make sure you don’t leave him hanging, always be honest with him and talk him through your feelings as you’re having them. Being distant from him will crush his feelings and make him have doubts about your feelings for him. Don’t ever feel pressured into something you’re not ready for though. You should try talking to people who are in your position or have been in your position.
If you message me with your Tumblr and not on anonymous, I’ll be able to give you some Tumblr’s of people who married young/have just been proposed to, by replying privately to you so that you can maybe ask them for advice if you like.
I’d like you to keep me posted if you wish. Let me know what happens. All the best with it though love. xx
