Ponses. Says ly2 when I say I love you. And when I ask what’s wrong. He always says nothing. He finally told me after a while of me asking. And he’s worried I’m going to fall for another guy while he’s gone. I’m trying to tell him that’s not going to happen. But he’s not listening. So we talked about it. Moved on from it and everything. Now he’s still being distant. He barely texts me. I always have to text him first. And when I get mad at him or tell him something. He gets so pissed off ignores me So then I feel like crap. And end up apologizing. I do it every time. It’s just how I am. I feel guilty. But when he does want to talk and I say hey can we talk and he’s like sure babe. I can’t find the words. So I’m just confused on what to do. I really love this guy. I want this long distance relationship to work. He just makes it so hard sometimes. And it drives me insane. Any tips? Or advice? Please.
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Hmmm. It seems to me like your boyfriends insecurities are getting the better of him and ruining the relationship. I would suggest, if you can, try and go to Houston and surprise him, spend the day with him and talk to him about your feelings. Tell him that you love him and that you want to be with him, but his insecurities are pushing you away. Tell him that the way he is acting is making you feel like he doesn’t want to be with you. If you’re really honest and direct with him, hopefully he’ll get the message and understand.
As for the apologising business, if you apologise every single time there’s an argument, you’re just building up all these feelings inside of you and eventually you’re going to explode from the frustration and anger. Next time you have an argument, call him up and yell at him, scream until he get’s the point. Don’t just give up because you’re afraid. If he loves you he’ll understand the frustration and see where it’s coming from. Obviously don’t do that all the time, but when you feel like you’re really at breaking point and tried everything and he still isn’t getting the message then that’s what you should try. It’s only been three months, your relationship should be smooth sailing.. you’re still getting to know each other, still learning about each other and there shouldn’t be any room for arguing. Honestly, I think it is really just his insecurities about being away from you and not being able to see you much, etc. Tell him that you could easily feel the same way about him and other girls, but you choose not to because you love him and you trust him and you want the relationship to work. Just be as honest and upfront as you can and I really do think that if it’s possible you do that in person so that he can see that you’re for real from the effort he’s made.
Good luck dearest, I hope he can understand xxx
