htaerbtsuj asked: Hi , i am together with my boyfriend for a year now, and we have been Into a lot of discussions. Sorry if my english is bad but i'm from Belgium. Before that i met him he was a player who had a lot of girlfriends he was that kind of player,and in may there was a party where he was with his exgirlfriend after the party she told him she wanted to kiss him and all that stuff he ignore it but after that he has been to her house twice. I dont have enough characters i will put the rest in another ask
(Continued) So he went to her house but what he didnt told me was that he felt the same way about her and that they went together in a jacuzzi but nothing happened cause she refused, that was the first time that he almost cheated me. Then there was another girl its his stephcousin. And I found out that he cheated on me with her to they slept together( it was with the family) but everybody was sleeping and she says that they kissed and i kind a believe her he lies so much :( I said that i knew it and that he could explain when he comes back, he said that he’ll tell the truth but he also says that he didnt kissed her but the girl’s sister heared it so.. Who should i believe? Sorry for the long story but i didn’t want to make it complicated.. I’m so broken i cry every night :( help me please.
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I can imagine how hurt you would be. You already said that your boyfriend used to be a player, but what’s to say he’s changed? The fact that he would go to his ex girlfriend’s house (after she said she wants to kiss him) and go in a jacuzzi with her alone but “nothing happened” is pretty suspicious… to me anyway. If you don’t trust your boyfriend and you believe what the other girls are saying then there’s not really anything your boyfriend can do. Once you stop trusting someone it’s very hard to trust them again.
Think about this: Why do you want to be with someone who will go and be around other girls (especially an ex girlfriend) and not even invite you? Why do you want to be with someone who “lies so much”? Why do you want to be with someone who you don’t trust?
I don’t know who you should believe because I don’t know your boyfriend, nor do I know the girls he’s hanging around with (maybe they don’t like you and are trying to break you and your boyfriend up? who knows!) I think you should speak about this with him in person because it’s easier to tell when someone is lying in person than it is over text/facebook/whatever else and then if you still don’t believe him you should probably end things because there’s no point staying with someone you can’t trust.
Sorry that this is happening and I hope it works out for you :( xxx
Anonymous asked: (1/2)Me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and a half. We are both 18 and we have such a strong relationship. They say every relationship has faults...but the thing is, I really feel like our relationship has none. Is that bad? We've never had a fight. We bicker, but we've never screamed at each other or anything of that nature. I am so in love with him. Also, one of my old best friends kind of started being a bitch and hanging out with this other chick. She basicaly just
The second part of your message never came through so if you’d like to resubmit that then feel free to.
As for part one, not all people in relationships argue all the time. Maybe you don’t see each other a lot or something like that so you haven’t gotten to know each others faults in detail and you don’t have a chance to get on each others nerves. …I don’t know. It’s great that you are how you are, don’t question it. If you’re both enjoying the relationship and each other, then forget about what everyone else says! You’re you and your boyfriend is your boyfriend. You’re not like other people, and therefore your relationship will be different. You don’t want to be arguing all the time do you? No! :) So don’t worry about it unless it happens.
Send me the part about your friend again if you like! xx
Anonymous asked: So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and seven months, But lately me and him been butting heads for a month now. I try to talk to him but every time I get serious with him he just starts taking it as a joke. I know he loves me cause I'm a tough girl to handle but I still want to taken serious. Also lately I've been on his case because he barely spends time with me when he goes out he doesn't invite me anymore I have to invite myself. I really need your help what should I do?!! 😔
Well you need to ask him about why he isn’t inviting you out anymore. It’s not a nice thing to have to invite yourself but maybe he doesn’t realise that’s what’s happening. Maybe he just thinks it’s “standard” for you to be there and doesn’t think you need an invitation… I’m not sure love. Definitely ask him to clarify it for you. The same with seeing him, just ask him. When you bring it up be calm about it and if he starts taking it as a joke, stay calm but be firm and say “I’m not joking! :( It’s making me feel like you don’t want me around ……” and see what he has to say. Once he realises that you’re being serious when you don’t let him joke around, he should come to his senses and realise that he’s hurting you, even if he doesn’t know it. If talking to him doesn’t work, then stop inviting yourself places and stop asking to see him and see if he invites you/asks to see you. If he doesn’t do anything then you really need to think about if he wants to be in the relationship with you. You need to talk to him first though, there’s no point assuming things!
Good luck xxxx
Anonymous asked: My boyfriend and I, we had being date about 1 years. We also in long distance relationship. But, I dont know what is wrong with me. I cannot talks to him like other couples. Just texting. A couple week ago, he said I dont have trust on him. I told him I do trust him. After that, he never reply my texts. What should i do? Im quite miss him.
Try to call him instead of texting. I know you said you can’t talk to him but you have to try. Maybe you could have a date over skype, so that you can talk and see each other. I’m not sure why he thinks you don’t trust him, but you need to talk to him about that and find out why. Call him and ask him to meet you on skype at a certain time because you miss him and want to see his face and see how you go from there.
Good luck!
Anonymous asked: So me and my boyfriend of just over a year have a long distance relationship. At first it started off amazing and i love him to pieces but lately i keep saying the dumbest things and we end up falling out. He keeps saying i need to make more of an effort but over the phone what else can i do other than send him pictures and texts? HELP.
If he wants you to make more of an effort, why don’t you try sending him a package full of little goodies? Make him a CD of your favourite songs. Or maybe you could both say that at the time of day when you miss each other the most, you’ll take a picture of where you are and send it to each other. It could be while you’re laying in bed of an empty pillow next to you, or when you’re on the train and there’s an empty seat, or when you’re watching TV and wish he was watching it with you - whatever it is. Maybe he wants you to show him that you miss him / need him etc. Another thing you could do is ask him what exactly he means and what he wants you to do more of. If you only ask me and not him what he means, I can’t give you the full story because I don’t know him.
Good luck anyways dear x
Anonymous asked: I have been with my boyfriend for 1 year &1 month now and we really love each other and he tell me that he loves me everyday and I do the same to him. The thing is that sometimes when we talk we can get a little bit "tired/sad" at each other just from nowhere and we both now that this is a problem and we have told each other that we should stop with this so that we don't start a unnecessary fight just because of this little thing, what should I do to stop this completely? Btw you're amazing!!
Haha I’m glad you think so.. thanks!
As for your problem, I don’t really understand what you mean by you get “tired/sad” at each other? Does it happen cause of something? Is it because you don’t get to see each other very often? Or is it because you see each other all the time and feel like you need a break? I don’t know what to say to help you though. Maybe when you feel one of those moods coming, you should say to your boyfriend “hey I’m going to go and read some of my book. I’ll speak to you a bit later :)” or something along those lines and maybe tell your boyfriend to do the same. That way if you distract yourself from the mood or the feelings, it wont cause a fight.
Good luck and hope this has helped at least a little bit!
